Am I really that cheap??

About 1 year ago, Jeremiah and I went through the Dave Ramsey Financial Peace course. After taking it, we decided to go to a completely cash system and tighten up our budget to pay off debt. The first month, it quickly became very clear to me that I spent WAY more money than I thought I did. I actually ran out of money in my grocery budget half way through the first month and we barely squeaked by into the next month. But, I was diligent and decided I had to make this money go further. Now looking back 1 year later, I have become really cheap. I mean, it is actually becoming a little bit embarrassing because I will do mostly anything to get a good deal. Here are a few things I have done recently to "pinch a penny": 

~This past weekend I went away on a girls weekend with my bff Jessica to Charleston and it became glaringly obvious that I have become cheaper than I ever thought I would be. On the way down, I insisted on taping a bunch of white spots to myself, wearing a snout I printed online and going to Chick Fil A for a free meal. Yes to save $5 I put my pride behind me, dressed up like a cow and even took a picture with the cow. Of course, Jessica was not going to join me and just took pictures and laughed at me. Still, I am $5 richer. 

~Then we got to Charleston and needed to find a hotel. Everything was so expensive, we ended up at the Country Hearth Inn North Charleston that I had found online. (a 2 star motel right outside the ghetto) We get there and they tried to charge us $65 for the room that was advertised at $49.88 on hotels.com. So, I sat in the hotel lobby and using the free hotel wifi I booked the room on hotels.com to save $15. Shameless. 

~I started couponing after that first month on the cash system (because my family was not going to eat if I didn't). I have been "extreme couponing" since then (yes there really is such a thing). I have a dear friend who took me under her wing and taught me how to coupon and it changed my budget. For example, today at Publix I spent $23.91 and saved $109.98. This is for a weeks worth of groceries and all things we use on a regular basis. Last week I spent $17.43 and saved $114.17 and the week before spent $17.27 and saved $82.03. You get the picture. I actually get a coupon high when I walk out of a store with a whole cart of groceries and only paying a fraction of the cost... I'm sure I will blog more about this in the future as I have not even scraped the surface of my love for couponing and saving money. But, coupon shopping does come with some embarrassment. It takes forever to check out and people behind me do not love me and a lot of times the cashiers get annoyed by all my thousands of coupons. People look at me like I am crazy when I load up my 10 things of A1 or 20 Pace salsa's, even if I am getting them for better than free. I have become the crazy coupon lady. (At Publix, my cashier actually calls me the crazy coupon lady and I take it as a compliment. I really am cheap.)

~The other thing I have come to love is free stuff. A couple of weeks ago I planned a whole day around the fact that I could get smoothies for free at 2 different locations. I planned both lunch and dinner around getting free smoothies, threw the kids in the car and were off to a free day. We packed a lunch to go with the first smoothie and ate dinner at home before going for smoothie deserts at the second place. It was actually really fun and we had a good time doing it. Smoothies that are free even taste better. 

I'm there is more to tell because I am constantly around "deal hunting" and checking my favorite websites for coupons, deals and free promotions (some of those are to the left of this blog). Basically, I have become shamelessly cheap and am here to confess it to anyone who might be reading. I will write more about all of my great deals in future posts, just know you are reading the blog of a really big cheapskate. 

Potty Training Craziness

I have been working on potty training Jackson for about a week and a half now. All I have to say is that this has been quite an undertaking for me. I wake up first thing in the morning and think, "oh no, has Jackson gone potty yet?" And then spend literal hours of my life in the bathroom with him during the day. I mean, I'm sitting eating lunch and all I can think is, "in 10 minutes, Jackson is going to need to go potty." When you potty train, you really are living and breathing it. I remember when I was trying to get the kids to sleep through the night and all I could think about was when they were napping and eating, to try and maximize the likeliness of them sleeping through the night. This is the tenacity with which I have attacked potty training. I don't know why, it just seems like potty training is an all or nothing thing and I decided with Jackson almost turning 3, I cannot put it off anymore. 

So on Wednesday (June 24), I started the adventure of potty training. This is 2 days after my last blog post... apparently I was completely out of my mi

nd. I was inspired because I was taking care of a dog that was not potty trained and I figured, why not let the kids pee and poop all over the house with the dog. I don't know what I was thinking. And my original plan was to potty train both Jackson and Lila at the same time. After 3 hours with her in underwear, I changed my mind. She has no clue about the potty and that would have been torture for the whole family.

I used a system that I am not smart enough to have thought of. Basically, this is a system of timers, stickers, jelly beans and treasures. (sounds magical, right?) Every 20 minutes for about 3 days, we are in the bathroom working this system. For someone who is super laid back, I really had to devote myself to this and force myself to do it. And we have had some good success. He has been going in the potty really well and having minimal accidents. Some days, no accidents at all, and these are great successes. 

Then today he gets constipated and it's like we are starting all over again. He refused to go in the potty and all of a sudden started begging for a diaper. And I get depressed because apparently, this says something about Me and My abilities as a mother. Why is that? As soon as there is one small step backwards, this has something to do with me and how I am not doing something right? He's the one peeing in his pants. So, I've made a new decision. I are going to continue to take things one day at a time and celebrate the successes and be o.k. when things don't go exactly as planned. I mean, take a little bit of the pressure off of myself (and Jackson). At least I can rest secure in the fact that he will figure it out eventually and he will not be in diapers forever. I mean, how many teenagers do you know in diapers? 

~By the way, this picture is of Jackson on day 2 so proud with some of his treasures...the goggles and the motorcycle in his hand. And the bandaid is because he was washing his hands for the thousandth time and I walked out of the bathroom and he got Jeremiah's razor and tried to shave his face. Seriously.

Jackson's Beauty Regimen

Today has been quite a day! This morning Jeremiah got up at 5:45 to get ready to leave for a couple of days. He got up and left and around 6:30 I hear Jackson getting out of bed and going downstairs. This is his new thing, he gets up super early (6:30 is very early in our house, I know it is not super early in everyone else's) and goes downstairs and watches a little bit of t.v. by himself until the rest of us are ready to get up. Lila and I are just not morning people and this system has been working for us for about 2 weeks, so he got up and I got him some breakfast and told him I was going upstairs for a few more minutes. Well, before I knew it Lila was yelling from her room to get up, so I get her and go downstairs. This is what I find (I wish I had a picture).

Jackson had gotten out my makeup and poured my foundation all over the ottoman, using it as finger paint. It was also all over his face and body, the couch, the chair and the floor. I am starting to freak out. Then I take a closer look at him and apparently he had been working on his look all morning. He had drawn all over his legs and arms with pen... kind of like scribbly tattoos. He had also managed to cut his own hair. Seriously, I am not making this up. He actually cut the right side of his hair. It was a very busy morning of beauty treatments for him. Needless to say, I was not so impressed. It took 2 hours to get all of the makeup out of the furniture, clothing and off of him. I'm dog-sitting Jessica Robison's little dog right now and during this whole process, he decided to pee all over the floor, step in it and then walk all around the house. So, I'm trying to keep both kids and the dog out of the makeup, away from the scissors and pens and out of the pee. Seriously, how did this happen to me. Not my favorite way to wake up. And it is only 9:30am. I still have to make it the whole rest of the day with these two wild children.

 

On top of all of this, the kids have not been feeling great. Jackson started running a fever last night, Lila has acquired a rash and I just did not know what to do with them. So, I take the two crazies to the doctors office and sure enough Jackson has sinusitis and Lila has a yeast infection. (Don't worry, neither of them are contagious, for anyone who has been around us these past couple of days). Oh and my grandparents called today to tell me they wanted to come stay at our house for a visit... tomorrow! Looks like I will be cleaning all night. 

What a day!! I think it should be Jeremiah's fathers day gift that he did not have to be here for this craziness. But, we can only go up from here... right? 

Are you kidding me?

Last year for Christmas I got 2 of my most favorite gifts from my wonderful parents... one was a GPS system for our car and the other was this most beautiful Coach bag. It was the perfect camel color and my first ever fancy purse. Well, you can imagine my dismay when I picked up my purse a couple of days ago to find this "artwork" all over the front of it. I could have just cried. 

Ok, I thought to myself, I will just carry it so you can't see this side of the purse. 

No such luck.

Are you kidding me? Every square inch of the bag has blue pen marks on it, there is no disguising or ignoring it. Seriously, and the real irony of the whole situation is that I can never find a pen. Ever. So, all I can figure out is that Jackson has some secret stash of all of my pens and uses them to torture me by writing on my bags when I am not paying attention. And he didn't choose the Target diaper bag or all of my other $20 TJ Max purses. Oh no... he chooses my one lone nice thing. How does this happen to me? And what is the lesson here?? I cannot believe that the lesson is that as a mother I can never have nice things because my children will ruin them. But, what do you do? I guess you just keep telling your children that "we write on paper" and save some dollars so that someday you can have a nice bag again when you feel like your children will not use it as their blank canvas. And you start writing with pencils.

Go Big or Go Home

I have been wanting to start blogging for some time now and have decided to just do it. For a long time I felt like, "who really cares?" But, I have come to the conclusion that I like to read other people's blogs and maybe someone will like to read mine.

I recently turned 28 and as I was looking back on the past couple of years, I don't really know what I did. I don't keep track of what goes on in our lives and I am generally not good at getting stuff done on a daily basis. With this blog I am hoping to keep better track of the every day stuff that goes on with our family and post pictures and funny stories about them. I also have committed to "go big or go home" during this year of my life. I am making goals and trying to keep them so that I get stuff done this year and don't just let it pass me by. So, here I am keeping one of my first goals, blogging. I'm sure I will blog more about the other goals that I have for this year in the future. Until then, stay tuned.